"PS9" (PS9)
05/08/2016 at 17:34 • Filed to: None
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"PS9" (PS9)
05/08/2016 at 17:34 • Filed to: None | 3
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You all said dating coworkers was a terrible idea. Well I just went date yesterday with a coworker and it went awesome, so shows what you know oppo! Have the first google image result for ‘date car’ as your reward.
*(not doing what I do is probably a good thing to do.)
Klaus Schmoll
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 17:46 |
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Been there, done that, didn’t get the t-shirt. Don’t shit where you eat!
Butsen Katsun
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 17:47 |
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It’s not the first date, it’s what can happen at the end that makes it a terrible idea.
Svend
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 17:49 |
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It’s not so much the date or the date going bad, it’s when it goes good because what happens when things stop going good, you’ll still have to work together and that’s when the faeces hits the fan. Even the most amicable break up can have an affect on not just you but other co-workers.
Proceed with caution Will Robinson.
Nobody wants to be lost in space.
MossInTheUSA
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 18:01 |
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I met my wife at our former workplace.
We’ve been married for almost 6 years. People at work didn’t even know we were dating until we announced that we were engaged.
yamahog
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 18:14 |
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Idk man, I still think my boyfriend wouldn’t be too pleased if I started dating my coworkers.
Ferdinand Adlersflügel
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 18:27 |
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Hopefully it works out for you if that’s what you want, but in my experience, it never works out the way we plan.
I met my current boyfriend of 6 years where we both work, but we had minimal at-work contact because he was a senior attending and I was just starting my residency. (We work in a hospital). When you spend 90-110 hours of your week in the same place, you don’t really have time or energy to date outside of work. So far it has been pretty great but when you both share the same friends, you don’t really have “a person” to talk to and squabbles become public very quickly. Now we have much more at-work contact because our specialties have a lot more overlap and we are both the chiefs of our specialties.
Before that, when I was still a senior resident, I was dating my attending, which is very frowned upon and against so many codes and rules. (codes and rules that were written because of me and my previous dating material) Eventually we broke things off but it was so messy that he moved across the country. oops.
Before that, when I was an intern (first year of residency), I was with a chief attending for a while. Again, we were both breaking tons of understood but not written rules, but because he was a senior attending, he wasn’t going to get in trouble. Eventually, our boss found out and wrote some ethics and dating rules that no one really follows to this day. Now we are dating again and have been for 6 years, as previously mentioned! woohoo for things coming full circle
Essentially, if you really feel a connection and you don’t work side-by-side, go for it.
LongbowMkII
> Ferdinand Adlersflügel
05/08/2016 at 18:42 |
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So are you JD or Eliot?
fhrblig
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 19:10 |
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It is a bad idea. Except when it works out.
Same thing with hooking up on the Internet. You might get murdered, or you might end up in a long term relationship like me and my husband (and, come to think of it, my mom and stepdad).
gin-san - shitpost specialist
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 19:38 |
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I missed the original post, but my workplace has a fair amount of workplace couples - some have met at work, others met before being employed by our company, but it seems to work out. Many are married or in long-term relationships.
My belief is that the right person can make a shitty situation great, or at least tolerable, but the right person has strictly defined parameters since I’m not one who enjoys discussing work outside of work.
I hope it works out for you - I don’t think it’s unusual to meet someone you love at your workplace but I think it’s for that same reason that many people have horror stories about it, too.
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Ferdinand Adlersflügel
> LongbowMkII
05/08/2016 at 20:30 |
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Well, considering I am of German descent, I was my high school’s valedictorian, I come from a privileged but love-deprived background, I am very competitive, and I am incredibly blunt, that leaves me with being Elliot. Even if I were to interpret your question differently, I would still be Elliot.
Xyl0c41n3
> LongbowMkII
05/08/2016 at 20:32 |
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Am I the only one who thinks that entire thing is one big humble brag?
nermal
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 20:33 |
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Secret steamy workplace affairs are AWESOME!
Until you hurt her feelings, and she paints that you’re a meanie butt on your bro truck, and all of your coworkers see it. :-(
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Xyl0c41n3
> PS9
05/08/2016 at 20:39 |
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Dated someone at work, ended up in a relationship for most of a decade. We started out as work friends first, and it was only after our coworkers kept asking why we weren’t dating that one day we were like... Y’know, maybe we are more than friends.
I mean, I understand (and agree with) some rules against fraternizing with coworkers but at the same time? Proximity influences SO much of what we do. We spend about a third of our days/weeks at work and a lot of us also hang out at work-related functions after hours. It would be ridiculous to think that a meaningful relationship can’t develop from that.
Just one word of advice: keep your personal lives out of your office. And if one of you is in a supervisory capacity in any way over the other, then extricate yourself from that situation as soon as you can.
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PS9
> yamahog
05/08/2016 at 20:51 |
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50 Shades of Yamahog?
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PS9
> Klaus Schmoll
05/08/2016 at 20:56 |
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If the choices are to eat near a toilet or starve, I’m not gonna frickin’ starve damnit!
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PS9
> nermal
05/08/2016 at 20:57 |
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You’re a meanie butt my, you hurt feelings!
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Xyl0c41n3
> nermal
05/08/2016 at 20:58 |
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Or until he becomes crazy possessive and sexually assaults her and stalks her when she tries to break it off.*
Crazy doesn’t know gender bounds, yo.
*Actually happened to someone I know.
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Klaus Schmoll
> PS9
05/09/2016 at 08:17 |
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Fair enough.
Dru
> Xyl0c41n3
05/09/2016 at 09:36 |
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You're on to something.